Seasons of Feminine Sexuality
Awaken primal pleasure
Your sexuality is not broken. It is not absent. It is not behind. It is cyclical. It's sleeping.
Just like the earth, your erotic energy mirrors seasons. In a culture that pressures us to always be "on," available, and productive (yang), your sexuality get stuck hibernating in winter.
In the following introduction, you'll learn:
- about yin yang in your sexual self
- how to identify the seasons of your sexual experiences
- practical exercises that invite desire and pleasure back
Your desire is not a light switch. It is a flow. A current. A living rhythm that responds to the context of your inner and outer world.
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Sex & the flow of Yin Yang
In Traditional Chinese Medicine, all things are composed of yin and yang—opposing yet complementary forces. Yang is heat, action, climax. Yin is coolness, receptivity, softness. We see the core of yin yang embodied in people, action, or moment. Yin yang is fluid—there is constant moment and transition between these forces with no person, action, or moment ever being just one or static.
In sex, we often glorify the yang: the spark, the fire, the finish. But true intimacy requires both.
- A woman's sexual energy is inherently yin—slower to ignite, deeply internal, fluid, and cyclical. It flows inward, like water pooling, often responding to context, safety, and subtle energetic cues.
- In contrast, a man's sexual energy is traditionally yang—goal-oriented, externally expressed, and climactic. It moves outward, like fire rising, often building quickly and then releasing.
This is natures paradox, push and pull, between both forces. The tension creates the magic and the friction. The opposite and complementary yin yang forces are magic when we roll between states of extended foreplay, teasing, building tension, and physical expression, force, and dominance. The frictionful moments happen when we are out of balance—which happens all too often in our masculine, yangful modern world. We either omit yin altogether or we misinterpret expressions of yin and contribute to the overwhelming yang.
Learn more about foreplay misinterpretations→
Sex is not just performance or passion. It is a dialogue between doing and being, giving and receiving, intensity and surrender. It is a sacred interplay of light and shadow, movement and stillness.
When we understand our erotic energy through the lens of yin and yang, we begin to honor its nuance. We stop asking, "Why don't I want sex?" and instead ask, "What kind of pleasure should I sink into?"
The Four Erotic Seasons
Just as the earth moves through spring, summer, fall, and winter—our bodies and desire mirror these patterns. Sexuality is a flow—a dynamic state that is constantly in transition. Your body undergoes cycles of receiving information, processing, and adapting, similar to how the earth evolves to the changing temperatures and light.
What is happening when we don't feel like we want sex
Unlike the earthly seasons, sexual seasons are not predictable and periodic. We can get stuck in an endless winter. We have expectations to feel desire instantaneously, but at the same time we don't understand the full context that creates it. When this happens we feel frustrated, numb, or disconnected from pleasure.
Deep-dive the context that controls desire.
When often undervalue rest and attempt to override our natural state of balance (cue substances that alter our mental state). We forget how to listen to our bodies and miss the cues for rest, reawakening, play, and healing. Desire doesn't disappear; it simply hibernates, waiting for the right context to awaken.
- Why does sex change as I get older?
- Will I ever feel the same intensity as my first kiss?
- Can I still lust after my partner?
Mastering your Sexual Rediscovery
Regaining your sexuality doesn't have to be daunting. We provide a range of tools to unlock your mind and ignite your pleasure. Rediscovering and recreating your sexuality is as big of a project as you'd like to make it. It can be as simple as a quick fix in a moment, or as big as recreating your next version of your magnetic sex.
Influence change in yourself, momentary or lasting:
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Stillness & Safety |
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Awakening & Curiosity |
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Vitality & Expression |
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Integration & Release |
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Final Reflection
You are not linear. You are cyclical. And your desire is not something to fix or force—it's something to listen to. To tend. To honor.
You are already in season. Let us walk with you through it.
